And I Almost Felt Bad
I passed the community room and caught sight of her thin slight image. Part of me felt sorry for this troubled woman. The other part of me only wanted to be rid of the individual who insinuated herself into my complex and proceeded to interrupt the peace and comfort one wants, needs, expects in the place they call home. I picked up the pace of my walk because I did not want to engage with her on any level. Yet I know and must face the fact that she had become a part of my life. Denial and ignoring her would not make her disappear from my psyche.
I did not ask for her to come to my place and attempt what she deemed to be a normal existence. I am naturally a suspicious person. You are not gonna walk into my presence and become a part of my life because we share a space. I am going to back up and observe you, I am going to analyze your look and behavior. I will likely make an escape from you and your presence cautiously.
Back to my soon to be former neighbor, she is being evicted. One might think I am cruel or cold because in my mind, she cannot be sent away too soon. I am also not alone in my sentiment. We, the residents who follow the rules, say to ourselves and one another, ” One down one to go…” Yet as you see this woman sitting staring into space, the compassionate human inside of you wishes it did not have to be this way. The truth is we all want and need to connect with one another. Human beings are social creatures. Some are better at making connections than others, Then, there are the ones who are downright terrible at connecting.
Where does that leave the bulk of us, in society in general, in a community, in a complex. If you knew that this woman was recently homeless living in her car, that she had gotten a break and able to have adequate housing, only to be faced with the same condition again. Would your heart bleed for her? Or would you ask more questions? If you did you would discover that from day one she began collecting trash and branches from trees to bring inside of her apartment and the building, you would find out that she has a dog that she does/did not have on a leash nor did she pick up his waste until she was told to, you’d hear about her taking things from her neighbors doorways because she wanted to, and how she smoked inside her apartment and outside the building too close to the entrances of a non-smoking community? These are but a few of the violations she as committed since moving into the community, less than three months ago. From a distance, where you are not personally affected, you can still hold onto that human compassion. However, when you find out that she has mental challenges, is on medication that she willfully does not take, the picture becomes clearer and clearer. One might say, she needs some help/assistance to intervene on her behalf…. or one might think what if you were personally affected. Honestly, I accept and realize we as adult humans can and will do whatever we think we want to do. To this I say,” Have at it, as long as what you decide to do ONLY has bearing on YOU. For once your actions interfere with another, you are guilty of violating their individual rights and YOU have no right to do that. If we all kept this consideration of others in mind, and my soon-to-be -former neighbor especially, perhaps she would not be faced with her current dilemma as well as other controversies.
Therefore, armed with some or all of this information one can understand how in spite of all of this, I almost feel sorry for her. Also understand I cannot wait until she is no longer a resident of the building, I call home.
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