By The Standards Of Others
Someone else’s wants, needs, and desires. Their schedule, their clock. Where do you fit in, well it is simple you are for their benefit, placed in a spot most appealing and useful to them. Not since my children were infants have I been willing to accept such a position. That does not mean I have not found or put myself in that very position, though.
Jobs and society place these requirements upon us all the time. However, there are other areas that make an attempt to do this as well and often time it is not well received. Personal relationships are a challenging area, because these are self-inflicted choices.
Let me start with I hate the feeling of being controlled by tyranny, be it animal, vegetable, mineral, individually or collectively. In my most eloquent way of expressing myself, “It Sucks!” Bound by what YOU think I should do. Where does it end? Time space, or place is not immune either. However, we must all submit to this standard on one level or another. Generally it is not constant and there is some underlying benefit to one submitting to such.
As we keep our vantage point on our “mid century being”, this experience will take us back, way back to childhood. While many of us cherish and reminisce our youth, this aspect of this type of control is rarely endearing. I’ll take a does of energy and fun, over disciplined control every time. Yet what guides, drives, and keeps us in places where we expose ourselves to this phenomenon. It is simple; needs, wants, and desires. Satisfaction of these are necessary and reasonable. The problem come into play when there is not a fair equitable exchange, or when you can no longer see it as being such.
I will not give you case studies or examples here. Realistically, we all have to submit in some area(s). We all choose to submit or not in others. What we have to do is know OUR cut off point, and be able to do just that, in each of those instances.